Posted by: DD | November 29, 2006

no. 327 – “Normal Female”

Chromosome testing results.

Another baby girl, gone.

Was it wrong of me to wish all this time that there was something wrong?

This answers nothing.

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Responses

  1. No it wasn’t wrong of you to have those thoughts. We all want a reason, a “why?” – even if it’s a bad one. For me, one of the worst parts of infertility is the total lack of control. Answers help with control. (If this, then that.) Of course, in the end, there’s little control at all… and that sucks big time.
    Here’s to positive thoughts for you and your baby girl. and to a Happy 2007

  2. I am so sorry.

    It is not wrong for you to want a child. You did nothing for this to happen. I also know that it doesn’t feel that way to you.

    You are in my thoughts and prayers.

  3. I think it’s perfectly normal to want an “answer”.

    So sorry for the loss of your baby girl. 😦

  4. Crap. I’m sorry.

  5. I’m so sorry. I know how badly you want a daughter. It would almost be easier to take if something were wrong–at least then there would be a reason. Damn. I’m just terribly sorry.

  6. I am so sorry.

    It is wrong to wish there was something to explain this series of very unfortuate events. I remember that feeling after my miscarriage also. It is only natural -uncertainty leaves you lingering when all you want is closure.

    I am so, so sorry.

  7. I’m sorry, DD. This must hurt so much. I agree that it would be easier to have an answer on “what went wrong.”

    I’m just so sorry about your loss.

  8. I am so very sorry to hear this. I really have no words to say, but you are in my thoughts.

  9. OK – I meant to write it is NOT wrong. SORRY, I hope you get my edit before you read my comment. Geez, not a good time to make an error. I hope you could tell the context by the rest of my message. Note to self: don’t try to comment while in a hurry.

    Gosh, I am stupid.

  10. Seriously, in a slightly sick and twisted way I was hoping that there was some horrendous genetic defect to make this all seem a little easier. I always tend to think on the positive side of shitty situations, so something really wrong with her would’ve made it a little easier to accept the loss.

    But nope, now I’m just more pissed at the universe for fucking it up again. You have no fault in this, lady. Stay strong.

  11. I have no words. I’m just very truly sorry. You are always in my prayers & thoughts. I wish I could hug you. (In a non-stalker way, of course.)

  12. I’m so incredibly sorry, DD. This just completely sucks. I wish I could hug you too…and I am not a huggy person.

  13. Oh DD. So much love to you right now. You are in my thoughts.

  14. I’m sorry. I know how much that hurts.

  15. Oh, DD, I don’t know what to say. That is so utterly painful.

  16. I felt the same way about ‘normal/boy’. It’s so hard to not know what went wrong, to be in the unexplained category. Intellectually it’s better because it means you aren’t producing crappy eggs etc., but emotionally it’s simply bloody awful. I am sorry.

  17. I’m sorry. Same thing happened after my D&C from the first miscarriage- I had two genetically normal sacs (they didn’t tell me sex, which I think was probably a little easier for me). Its so hard when there are no clear answers.

  18. DD, I’m so sorry about your little girl.

  19. That is so awful. I am sorry beyond what I can ever express to you.

  20. Not wrong at all to have wanted there to be a genetic defect. It would explain what went wrong. Instead you’re just in limbo. I’m so sorry that you lost another little girl.


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